Do you call yourself a Father?

Who do you think you are?

When I think about the meaning of this day I of course begin to think about my dad.
But more importantly I think about all the men that took a stand to raise kids that are not their own flesh and blood.

I lost my father at the age of 11. It was a very difficult time for my family as you could imagine. I can remember being so confused at the time not knowing where to turn. I recall the biggest question on my mind at the time was 'Who is going to teach me how to be a man?'

Yes, I have older siblings and cousins and uncles, but, I wanted 'MY' dad... It's hard to explain, the only way that makes any sense to me is, when someone you love gives you a gift and that gift is taken away from you, or broken, no other gift can replace the gift you lost. No amount of gifts can replace the value of the one you lost.

I had a strong support system in my mother she always there to guide me in practical everyday things but, there were times when we just couldn't see eye to eye. My older brother even came down to visit me and be the rock that I needed, but I didn't know how to accept his help and guidance.

So I found myself feeling like I was shutting out the world...

Today I recognize the effort it takes to be a father, to be a mentor, to be a guide to a young person who is lost. I know there are many guys out there who don't care to be there for their kids. Because of whatever circumstance, they chose not to be in the child's life...

However, I know from experience that there are those men, that take a stand and raise kids that are not their own flesh and blood. It is a task that not many would venture to take. Everyday comes new challenges and new opportunity to grow.

I have found that in general, kids want to be loved, kids want a family. They crave the normalcy of a family unit. But what is normal these days? The most important thing I can give to my kids is my time. Because I remember after I lost my Father, the only thing I wanted more than anything was more time...

This Father's day I want to give a shout out to the dads that are making happen. Taking care of their kids even if they live in another state. Do your part, make sure you in their lives.

Because the most important thing you could give them, is more time...

Don't let time run out on you!